While we are working with others, the very often questions or complains we got from others might be:"Hey, can you control your temper?",or simply feel dislike from people around you.
Being a Product Manager, leadership does not actually comes from your tile but the respect from your team members. Maybe the first thing you need to do is Temper Controlling.
I learnt these things from an HBR article, written by Daniel Goleman. Helps
me a lot when I got to face the dark side of me.
Manage your reaction:
Keep your distaste to yourself
- No complain to others
- Keep your support connections outside the office
Consider whether it’s you, not them
- “Start with the hypothesis that the person is doing things you don’t like but is a good person,”
- By better understanding what is bothering you, you may also be able to see your role in it.
Spend more time with them
- Develop some empathy
Consider providing feedback
- Focus on behaviors that she can control and describe how they impact you and your work together.
- But proceed cautiously
Adopt a don’t-care attitude
- “practice the fine art of emotional detachment or not giving a shit.”
Principles to Remember
- Manage your own reaction to the behavior first
- Practice emotional detachment so the person’s behaviors don’t bother you
- Spend time trying to get to know the person and better understand what motivates him
- Assume that it is all about the other person — you likely play some part
- Commiserate with others who could be unfairly influenced by your negativity or may judge you for your complaints
- Give feedback unless you can focus on work issues and can avoid a personal conflict